#YOUCANTALKABOUT SUICIDE

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By JC Clapham

A new suicide prevention education campaign has been launched through a collaboration of leading mental health organisations in Australia. The campaign aims to empower people and increase their confidence when it comes to talking about suicide. It is a collaboration between beyondblue, Black Dog Institute, Everymind, headspace, Lifeline, ReachOut and R U OK?, and in this columnist’s opinion, this is a very welcome campaign…

I lost my dad, and nearly myself

My father committed suicide twenty years ago, when I was 16. His death shattered me, and it’s taken most of the time since for me to come to terms with it.

And sadly, children of someone who dies by suicide are 50% more likely to suicide themselves.

I have survived my own suicide attempt, fourteen years ago when I was 22. In the past five years, I’ve also battled on and off with a feeling that suicide was sometimes the best option, and other times that it was my only option.

My dad became a statistic, and I nearly did, too.

It’s only in the past two years I’ve admitted to others that my ‘accident’ all those years ago wasn’t one. I intended to die, I tried to die, but I am now so incredibly grateful that I survived.

The happiness, and yes, the intermittent despair, that I have since experienced, have helped me become a more resilient and very appreciative person. And a wonderful father, a good son and brother, and hopefully, an ok friend.

It’s too late to help my father, but someone else’s can still be saved.

The facts about suicide

The Australian Bureau of Statistics (ABS) Catalogue 3303.0, Cause of Death Australia, 2016 released in September 2017, has some heartbreaking truths:

  • In 2016, 2,866 Australians took their own life
  • Of those, 2,151 were male, 715 were female
  • Suicide is approximately three times higher in males, which is consistent across every state and territory of Australia.
  • Every day, seven people in Australia will kill themselves.

Sobering and heartbreaking.

Some suicide myths busted

It’s quite normal and common to feel like bringing up the topic is a negative; that raising it might actually be more harmful.

But Black Dog Institute Director, Prof Helen Christensen, says that’s not true at all.

“The evidence is in: it is not harmful to ask someone if they are thinking about taking their own life or find out if they have made a plan.

“In fact, it could help. It’s important that we all know the facts about suicide and our prevention efforts are informed by what the research tells us.”

Experts generally agree that asking is unlikely to make the situation worse. One of the only ways to really know if a person is contemplating suicide is to ask. Asking someone if they are feeling suicidal may seem difficult, but it shows that you care.

Rather than just ‘attention seeking, people who talk about suicide are often thinking about taking their own life. Talking about suicide may be a way to indicate they need support so it needs to be taken seriously.

People who consider suicide are not weak, or selfish, or hopeless. Anyone who thinks about suicide is experiencing intense and overwhelming negative feelings and cannot see any other solution – they need support, not judgement.

We can help each other #YouCanTalk’s main message is you don’t need to be a clinician, a GP, or a nurse to check-in with someone you are worried about. Trust your instincts, and use the resources and support services available to help you having a chat with someone you think needs it.

Whether it is for conversations with friends, family, colleagues or acquaintances, #YouCanTalk also highlights the resources available to support these conversations.

beyondblue CEO, Georgie Harman, says it simply.

“You can talk about suicide. Half the population think that they can’t. We are on a mission to partner with the community to prevent suicide in this country.”

Information and resources: lifeinmindaustralia.com.au/youcantalk

1 Comment

  1. Peter

    August 31, 2018 at 9:46 pm

    Great article.
    Suicide affects all of our community in some way and I think its important to have the courage to speak up about it.
    An indirect family member of mine, Janet was one of those 2886 people who took their lives in 2016. Like the suicide itself, its ramifications for me were complex and hard to understand. The grief I felt, (or as it turns out I didn’t truly ‘feel’) manifested itself in other ways; insomnia, anxiety, addiction issues. It was as if, in the light of an event brought on by decades of unimaginable emotional and psychological trauma, and the horrendous grief her close family had to endure, I didn’t have any right to grief. But it gets to you in the end and it is has to be acknowledged. I know, as hard as it has been to admit it, I have a right to the feelings I
    don’t want to feel, and what they bring up. At the very least, for Janet’s sake.

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